I’ve been working on our chore chart. I make a new one just about every year. Anytime we move to a new house, we usually REALLY need a new one; new house; new era; new needs.
I switched a few chores around this time hoping to cut down the “I can’t do my chores, because someone else hasn’t done theirs.” syndrome. Think it will work? More than anything the charts are for me to define AND remember who’s supposed to do what. When we don’t have a chart that balances out the chores, no one can agree who’s supposed to do half the chores, and I end up doing them.
I printed it out on light blue card stock and slipped it into a page protector. It hangs on our fridge next to our school schedule.
I always date the charts and keep them in the computer, so I can compare from year to year who had what job. Years ago, I’d planned to rotate jobs quarterly between the kids, but it’s turned out to be SO much easier to let the kid who’s really good at their job keep it, so Joel may never learn how to wash dishes etc. My apologies to all their future spouses. I do occasionally have training sessions where I gather everyone in one place and show them how a chore is done.
JOYS in “Family JOYS” stands for Joyful, Obedient, Youthful, Service. It came from an article I read by Terri Camp about teaching your kids to see chores as an opportunity to serve. Over the years, I’ve learned to love doing house work. I see it as blessing those who live in and visit our home and I love that I can use the time to pray.
My “kids” (young adults) have pretty good attitudes about chores and are a BLESSING.. our main struggle is getting them done in a timely manner. Our goal is to have the weekly chores done by Thursday at 4PM so that on Friday everything feels fresh and ready for a relaxed weekend.
If we continue to struggle with getting things done on the list, I might try making one like this:
I like it because it’s easy to see who needs to do what at glance.. without taking a lot of space. I don’t like that it requires everyone to constantly rearrange sticks, and I am not sure if moving sticks will cut down on the number of times I’ll have to verbally remind them to do their chores. What do you think?
I’ve charged fees for unfinished chores before.. and/or added chores to their lists. “If you can’t do your chores on time and without complaining, you must need more practice doing chores.” Now that they are all young adults, I don’t really say things like that anymore. They seem to know that chores are a part of life, and don’t complain unless they think it’s someone else’s job.. and even then, they are willing to do it for me if I ask on occasion. I did show them and threaten to make the chart with the sticks if they continue to need reminders. Beyond that I am not sure what to do. Take away computer privileges?
Next the new school schedule..
You should see our van. I’ll try to take photos later today. It’s so stuffed.. only two girls .. but TWO weeks. We spent all Monday afternoon taking stuff to the car. Judi asked she could use a big black trash bag for her clothes. It seemed a little odd, but I couldn’t think of a reason to say no, and was just glad she had had time to get her laundry done after just returning from youth camp in FL. Got to love my big washer and drier.
Judi told me later that she didn’t feel like she had time to plan out outfits and pack them all so threw ALL her clothes in the trash bag. Ha! I mentioned hoping Suzanne had coset space for us.. she said.. all she needed was the floor. Any given day, if you were to come see her room, you’d see a sea of clothes on the floor. I’ve tried saying, “No driving ’till your clothes are picked up.” and that works sometimes… I told her she couldn’t live like that at Suzanne’s.
Judi and I made it to MO yesterday. It was a long drive. Judi drove a total of 5.5 hrs and I drove 3. So nice to be able to crash in the hotel. It’s work for me when she drives, too.
The very minute I started getting a little comfortable with her driving and the road we were on and thought about getting my knitting out she decided to try to throw away something, went off the left shoulder of the road and it was a few swerves before she had control of the car again. Focus. Shortly after an 18 wheeler decided to turn left and she just made it around his tail without hitting the car in the right lane beside her. Does that count as my cardio work out for the day?
that she’s not like me.. she has different interest and
I should just accept her for her beautiful self, she saw this
fabric and decided that she wanted to learn to sew.