Through Every Season

Month: June 2023

Finding Comfort in God’s Sovereignty

Immediately after Joel was murdered, the one thing that most comforted me was my belief in God’s sovereign control over our lives. Joel’s life had not been cut short. God had ordained the number of his days from before he was born (Psalm 139:16) and intentionally allowed Joel to be murdered that night for His good purposes. The young man who shot and killed Joel had evil intentions and will be held accountable by God for what he did, but God’s intentions and purposes are always good.

“And we know that God works all things together for the good of those who love Him, who are called according to His purpose.”

Romans 8:28

We live in a fallen world that has been very broken by human rebellion and sinfulness, but it is not a world abandoned by God nor outside of His control.

We should hate the sin and the results of sin that destroy the lives of those around us and love and bless the God who has not cast us into the utter darkness that we deserve, but sent His beloved Son to humble Himself being made in human likeness and live as a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief, Who though sorrowful to the point of death, accepted His Father’s will and endured rejection, beatings, crucifixion, the wrath and abandonment of our Heavenly Father and even Hell on our behalf. We should praise the God who declares the end from the beginning (Isaiah 46:10), Who offers redemption through the resurrection of His Son, the God Who is compassionate and not slow in keeping His promise, but patient with us not wanting anyone to be destroyed, but that all should come to repentance and be saved (2 Peter 3:9). 

Psalm 121

1 I lift up my eyes to the hills. From where does my help come?

2 My help comes from the Yahweh, the Maker of heaven and earth.

3 He will not allow your foot to slip; your Protector will not slumber.

4 Behold, the Protector of Israel will neither slumber nor sleep.

5 The Yahweh is your keeper; the Yahweh is the shade on your right hand.

6 The sun will not strike you by day, nor the moon by night.

7 The Yahweh will guard you from all evil; He will preserve your soul.

8 The Yahweh will watch over your coming and going, both now and forevermore.

Yahweh, Maker of heaven and earth is our Helper. Our Protector was not asleep at 9 PM the night Joel was murdered. He kept and guarded Joel and guided him from the presence of evil into peace and rest (Isaiah 57:1-2). He watched over Joel’s coming and going and preserved Joel’s soul. This is who God is. This is what God does. I have seen God help, work, protect, and watch over us throughout our lives. His love never fails. He is sovereign. All power and glory and honor are His.

Though Joel’s death broke my heart and I did not understand God’s ways that night, I knew that nothing could separate us from His love, not “trouble or distress or persecution or famine or nakedness or danger or sword,” not a stranger with an AK57, nor “death nor life, neither angels nor principalities, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:35, 38-39).

While interacting with others through the months that followed Joel’s death, I began to realize that not everyone believed in God’s sovereign control the way I did. In their minds, the devil had won a battle, God’s hands were somehow tied by a mere human’s choice or the devil’s schemes, God’s good and perfect plans for our lives had been derailed, and he was powerless or had chosen not to do anything about it. It comforted them to believe that life and death was left to mortal whim while it was unthinkable to me that Joel could have died outside of our sovereign Heavenly Father’s will.

I don’t believe they thought through the implications of their beliefs. If God is not sovereign over all, then He cannot be sovereign. If God is not sovereign, omniscient, omnipotent, omnipresent, wise, good and kind then He cannot be trusted to keep His Word and verses like these offer no real comfort:

“But I trust in You, O Yahweh; I say, ‘You are my God.’ My times are in Your hands.” 

Psalm 31:14-15

“Preserve me, O God, for in You I take refuge.”

Psalm 16:1 

“Keep me as the apple of Your eye; hide me in the shadow of Your wings.” 

Psalm 17:8 

“Your eyes saw my unformed body; all my days were written in Your book and ordained for me before one of them came to be.”

Psalm 139:16

“Even to your old age, I will be the same, and I will bear you up when you turn gray. I have made you, and I will carry you; I will sustain you and deliver you.” 

Isaiah 46:4

“Are not two sparrows sold for a copper coin? And not one of them falls to the ground apart from your Father’s will.”

Matthew 10:29 

“And even the very hairs of your head are all numbered. So do not be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.”

Luke 12:7

How can God be faithful and true to His Word if a mere human’s will or the devil’s schemes can prevent Him from preserving, keeping, ordaining, sustaining and delivering us? How can He be trusted to keep His promises? How can we know He is preparing a place for us and will one day return to rescue us? How can His ways be higher and His plans never thwarted if He is not sovereign over all? How could I take any comfort in God or His Word at all? 

I wrestled while they slept. God’s sovereignty, man’s meaningful choice, and the problem of evil became a topic I needed to study and continue to study. Reading the writings of fellow Christian sufferers like Corrie ten Boom, Elisabeth Elliot, Joni Eareckson Tada, John Piper, Paul David Tripp, Tim Keller, Charles Spurgeon, Philip Yancey, and others confirmed what I had originally believed. Reading through their logic and the scriptures and seeing how comforted others were by God’s sovereignty over all things comforted me. My husband and I are currently reading Randy Alcorn’s “If God is Good: Faith in the Midst of Suffering and Evil.” We highly recommend Randy’s books regularly. If you are looking for a book specifically on how God’s sovereignty works with meaningful choice we recommend his, “hand in Hand: The Beauty of God’s Sovereignty and Meaningful Human Choice.” 

I believe in meaningful human choice that includes repercussions, responsibly and accountability and I believe in God’s sovereignty over all things. I believe the wisdom and lovingkindness of God’s character shine through every bit of His sovereignty though I lack the perspective to see and understand it all now. I believe that though I have to “live by faith, not by sight” (1 Corinthians 13:12) now, “then we will see everything with perfect clarity” (2 Corinthians 5:7). “I know that my Redeemer lives, and in the end He will stand upon the earth. Even after my skin has been destroyed, yet in my flesh I will see God. I will see Him for myself; my eyes will behold Him, and not as a stranger. How my heart yearns within me!” Job 19:25-27

In the “coming ages” God will “display the surpassing riches of His grace, demonstrated by His kindness to us in Christ Jesus” (Ephesians 2:7). And I will be amazed at the beautiful way He has been “working all things together for the good of those who love Him” (Romans 8:28).

For God, who said, “Let light shine out of darkness,” made His light shine in our hearts to give us the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ. 

2 Corinthians 4:6

Therefore we do not lose heart. Though our outer self is wasting away, yet our inner self is being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an everlasting weight of glory, far beyond any comparison. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal. – 2 Corinthians 4:16-18

2 Corinthians 4:16-18

A few resources:

An article written shortly after Joel’s death and the Sandy Hook Elementary School shooting that I found especially helpful: https://www.desiringgod.org/articles/confronting-the-problems-of-evil

Randy’s “If God is Good” chapter summaries:
https://www.epm.org/resources/2009/Dec/17/IGIG-Chapter-Summaries/


A few quotes I often re-read: 

“Either God rules, or Satan sets the world’s agenda and God is limited to reacting. In which case, the Almighty would become Satan’s clean-up boy, sweeping up after the devil has trampled through and done his worst, finding a way to wring good out of the situation somehow. But it wasn’t his best plan for you, wasn’t plan A, wasn’t exactly what he had in mind. In other words, although God would manage to patch things up, your suffering itself would be meaningless.” 

Joni Eareckson Tada, When God Weeps p 84

“It would be a very sharp and trying experience to me to think that I have an affliction which God never sent me, that the bitter cup was never filled by his hand, that my trials were never measured out by him, nor sent to me by his arrangement of their weight and quantity.” 

C. H. Spurgeon

“The sovereignty of God is the pillow upon which the child of God rests his head at night, giving perfect peace.”

C. H. Spurgeon

“When terrible things happen, there are two choices, and only two:  We can trust God, or we can defy Him.  We believe that God is God, He’s still got the whole world in His hands and knows exactly what He’s doing, or we must believe that He is not God and that we are at the awful mercy of mere chance.” 

Elisabeth Elliot

“I know of no greater simplifier for all of life. Whatever happens is assigned. Does the intellect balk at that? Can we say that there are things that happen to us that do not belong to our lovingly assigned “portion.” (“This belongs to it, that does not”)? Are some things, then, out of the control of the Almighty? Every assignment is measured and controlled for my eternal good. As I accept the given portion other options are canceled. Decisions become much easier, directions clearer, and hence my heart becomes inexpressibly quieter. A quiet heart is content with what God gives.” 

Elisabeth Elliot

“Number one, God brought me here.  It is by His will that I am in this place.  In that fact I will rest.  Number two, He will keep me here in His love and give me grace to behave as His child.  Number three, He will make the trial a blessing, teaching me the lessons He intends for me to learn and working in me the grace He means to bestow.  Number four, in His good time He can bring me out again.  How and when, He knows.  So, let me say I am here.”

Andrew Murray

“When my plans crumble and God takes me away from my dreams, I must trust in God’s infinite wisdom.  When my cup of suffering seems too much to bear, I need to rest in his immeasurable love.  When my life spins out of control, I need to remember God’s absolute sovereignty.”

Vaneetha Rendall Risner, The Scars that have Shaped Me, page 73

“There’s great clarity in seeing the sovereignty and wisdom of God held together. We learn that nothing happens by chance, or passes outside God’s plans. Everything filters through His wisdom. This helps weary sufferers to remember that our pains and afflictions are not pointless.” 

Erik Reed, Uncommon Trust, page 46

“So while it is not inaccurate to say that God allows evil and suffering, it is inadequate, and perhaps misleading, to limit God’s involvement in suffering to this word, suggesting that he only passively (and perhaps reluctantly, we hope) gives permission. In fact, there are only a handful of scriptural passages where the text itself says that God ‘allowed’ or ‘permitted’ difficulty or harm, while many more indicate that God sent, intended, brought about, planned, caused, or gave experiences of suffering to his people for some purpose (Deuteronomy 32:39; 2 Samuel 12:15; Psalm 66:10-12; Isaiah 45:7; Jeremiah 46:28; Jonah 2:3; Matthew 4:1; 1 Peter 3:17).”

Nancy Guthrie, Hearing Jesus Speak in Your Sorrow, Page 78

“Although the sovereignty of God is universal and absolute, it is not the sovereignty of blind power. It is coupled with infinite wisdom, holiness and love. And this doctrine, when properly understood, is a most comforting and reassuring one. Who would not prefer to have his affairs in the hands of a God of infinite power, wisdom, holiness and love, rather than to have them left to fate, or chance, or irrevocable natural law, or to short-sighted and perverted self? Those who reject God’s sovereignty should consider what alternatives they have left.

Loraine Boettner

Leave it in the Hand and Mystery of God.

“I was preparing to go to Nyack College. Before I left there was one burning question I had in mind, and I went to Dr. Tozer and said, Could you give me some advice concerning the problem of Calvinism versus Arminianism?

“And I’ll never forget the advice he gave me. At the time I thought it was rather inconclusive and not too helpful. But I listened carefully. He said, ‘My son, when you get to college you’re going to find that all of the boys will be gathered in a room discussing and arguing over Arminianism and Calvinism night after night after night. I’ll tell you what to do, Cliff. Go to your room and meet God. At the end of four years you’ll be way down the line and they’ll still be where they started, because greater minds than yours have wrestled with this problem and have not come up with satisfactory conclusions. Instead, learn to know God.’”

The Life of A.W. Tozer: In Pursuit of God, James L. Snyder page 132

A few Scriptures to consider:

As for you, you thought evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring about that many people should be kept alive, as they are this day. 

Genesis 50:19 

See now that I am He; there is no God besides Me. I bring death and I give life; I wound and I heal, and there is no one who can deliver from My hand.

Deuteronomy 32:39 

The Lord foils the plans of the nations; He thwarts the purposes of the peoples. But the plans of the Lord stand firm forever, the purposes of His heart through all generations.

Psalm 33:10-11

Many are the plans in a person’s heart, but it is the LORD’s purpose that prevails

Proverbs 19:21

The king’s heart is like a stream of water directed by the Lord; He guides it wherever He pleases

Proverbs 21:1 

I know that You can do all things and that no plan of Yours can be thwarted.

Job 42:2 

Remember what happened long ago, for I am God, and there is no other; I am God, and there is none like Me. I declare the end from the beginning, and ancient times from what is still to come. I say, ‘My purpose will stand, and all My good pleasure I will accomplish.’ I summon a bird of prey from the east, a man for My purpose from a far-off land. Truly I have spoken, and truly I will bring it to pass. I have planned it, and I will surely do it.

Isaiah 46:9-11

He [Jesus] was delivered up by God’s set plan and foreknowledge, and you, by the hands of the lawless, put Him to death by nailing Him to the cross. 

Acts 2:23 

God that made the world and all things therein, seeing that He is Lord of heaven and earth, dwelleth not in temples made with hands; Neither is worshiped with men’s hands, as though He needed any thing, seeing He giveth to all life, and breath, and all things; And hath made of one blood all nations of men for to dwell on all the face of the earth, and hath determined the times before appointed, and the bounds of their habitation; God intended that they would seek Him and perhaps reach out for Him and find Him, though He is not far from each one of us. “For in Him we live and move and have our being.” 

Acts 17:24-28 

Much Love,

Jenny

Beholding God’s Wondrous Suffering Love

I have known and loved Jesus from a very young age. He has been my friend through many trials. But my first question after experiencing the murder of my youngest son was, “Is God sensitive to just how painful the suffering He is allowing really is? He is God. Does He feel pain? Does He understand the pain in my heart?” I needed someone safe to take my pain to. “Was God safe? Was I alone in my pain?”

Our world has been so very broken by our sinful rebellion against God. We have all foolishly rejected God and gone our own way and the only way that can end is in death.

Our gracious Heavenly Father knew before He created us that the only way for us to truly love Him was to give us free will. He knew we would rebel. He knew His great love for us would cost Him His own dear Son’s life and still chose to create us.

“There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

John 15:13

This is who God is, has always been, and will always be. He is a God of great intention. He is sacrificial love.

“Was God safe? Was I alone in my pain?” The only way I could discover the trustworthiness and faithfulness of God for myself was to press in. I had to draw near to God. I had to begin taking all my tears and sorrows to Him in prayer. I had to ask Holy Spirit to help me hear, see and know God. I had to search for the Truth in the scriptures. I had to allow Him into my pain before I could no longer be alone, before I could learn that He was safe. 

My sweet husband bought this painting by Greg Collins for me for Joel’s birthday this year 💕


It is only through opening ourselves up to feel our own pain, that we can begin to open ourselves up to feel the pain of another. We cannot understand how deeply someone feels pain until we open ourselves up to feel it.

It is only through my willingness to embrace my own pain and tears and through my willingness to sit with God in prayer and with Holy Spirit as I read the scriptures that I was able to begin to open up to and understand a little of how much Jesus suffered as a man, not only on the cross but through many painful trials. It was only through Jesus, Holy Spirit and His Word that I could begin to see our merciful Father. It was only through this process that I could learn how very deeply our precious Heavenly Father loves us, and is longsuffering, patient, and gracious towards us. 

What I have seen of God’s suffering love is wondrous to behold.

I cannot see or taste it for you. I can only tell you that His love is deeper and greater than I can comprehend. It is beautiful and consuming. I want to be near Him and somehow more like Him. Nothing compares to Him. Having seen a little, I want to behold, contemplate, know and be conformed into His likeness.

“I want to know Christ and the power of His resurrection and the fellowship of His sufferings, being conformed to Him in His death, and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.”

Philippians 3:10-11


Jesus has opened up a way:

“Whenever anyone turns to the Lord, the veil is taken away.”

2 Corinthians 3:16

“And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into His image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.”

2 Corinthians 3:18


All we have to do is turn to Him. Turn to Him with your pain. Turn away from going your own way. Ask Holy Spirit to open your bind eyes, that you might see Jesus. Ask Him to show you the Father through Him. Ask Him to show you His glory and transform you into His image.

“So let us know—let us press on to know the LORD. As surely as the sun rises, He will appear; He will come to us like the rain, like the spring showers that water the earth.”

Hosea 6:3


He comes to us and refreshes us as we draw near to Him in prayer and meditate on His Word.

Yesterday, I beheld His beautiful suffering love through these words:

Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus (Philippians 2:5)
The Son is the radiance of God’s glory and the exact representation of His nature,
upholding all things by His powerful word. (Hebrews 1:3)
Who, existing in the form of God,
did not consider equality with God something to be grasped
but emptied Himself, taking the form of a servant being made in human likeness (Philippians 2:6-7)
made like His brothers in every way (Hebrews 2:17)
He is able to deal gently with those who are ignorant and misguided,
since He Himself is beset by weakness (Hebrews 5:2)
[able] to sympathize with our weaknesses (Hebrews 4:15)
He humbled Himself (Philippians 2:8)
He Himself suffered (Hebrews 2:18)
He was despised and rejected by men, a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief.
Like one from whom men hide their faces, He was despised, and we esteemed Him not. (Isaiah 53:3)
He offered up prayers and pleadings with loud cries and tears to the One who could save Him from death, and He was heard because of His reverent submission. (Hebrews 5:7)
yet we considered Him stricken by God, struck down and afflicted.(Isaiah 53:3)
Surely He took on our infirmities and carried our sorrows (Isaiah 53:4)
and became obedient to death— even death on a cross. (Philippians 2:8)
While we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)
Although He was God’s Son, He learned obedience from what He suffered. (Hebrews 5:8)
having been made perfect through suffering (Hebrews 2:10, 5:9)
the Lamb who was slain from the foundation of the world (Revelation 13:8)
the Author of our Salvation (Hebrews 2:10)
became the Source of Eternal Salvation to all who obey Him (Hebrews 5:9)
After He had provided purification for sins,
He sat down at the right hand of the Majesty on high (Hebrews 1:3)
a merciful and faithful high priest in service to God (Hebrews 2:17)
Because Jesus lives forever, He has a permanent priesthood.
Therefore He is able to save completely those who draw near to God through Him,
since He always lives to intercede for them (Hebrews 7:24-25)

May the Lord bless you and keep you in His Wondrous Suffering Love,

Jenny

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